MY WIFE,AM SORRY

By:
Dalton OMONDI

Dalton woke up in the morning and found her wife praying. He heard her praying for him as he stared at her. It has been a long time since he has seen her praying and this was unusual. For the past few months, they have been arguing. Last night, they had a nasty fight which made Dalton think it might be over between them. He went downstairs in a hurry to prepare himself breakfast. These past days, she hasn't been cooking for him. Shock on him, he found breakfast already set at the table. He ate and went back to the bedroom, to prepare for a shower. She then left the shower.

"Good morning. Have a blessed day" she said as she entered the bedroom and he left for the bathroom. After his shower, all dressed up for work; he found his wife at the kitchen, eating breakfast in peace. She was looking at some funny videos on her phone and giggling.

He looked at her then walked out the door. The last look he had of her before he left was of her at peace. That last look disturbed him. This is not how she should be. This is not how she has been. He has been hurting her. She has recently found out that he has been flirting with other women. He has cheated once and used money meant for their family on other women. She should be angry.Her peaceful demeanor disturbed him.

Evening came and he had to go home to meet his peaceful wife again. She was cooking and laughing with their children. She had come from work two hours ago.

The dinner was enjoyable. Good food, she having warm conversations with the children. He as the father felt left out. His wife and children seemed to be having fun despite him hurting them. After dinner, as she washed the dishes and the children had gone to bed, He approached her.

"Are you OK?" he asked her.

"I am more than OK. I am blessed" she answered.

"Are you not mad at me? After all that I am doing and have done wrong?" he asked.

She placed the washed plate in the rack then looked at him and said , "I asked myself, what is the most important relationship in my life? The one I have with you or the one with God? And I realized it is the one with God. I live for God, not for you. Marrying you was a blessing but it is not all there is in life. God has blessed me with life and I will not waste it crying because of the hurt you cause me to feel"

She picked up a dirty glass and began washing it.

"I realized I had given you too much power. Yes, you are my husband, the closest human being in my life and the human being I love the most; but you are not God. You have failed me but God never fails me. I will not let you ruin my joy, my peace and my progress. You break our marriage if you want to, but I will hold on to God. And as I hold on to God, I will be full of joy despite what you do" She said rinsing the glass.

She looked at him and continued, "When you hurt me and disrespected me, I realized I was acting out like a woman who has no Jesus. I got mad and hurled insults, I wanted to revenge and I allowed you to mess me day after day. My performance at work went down, I talked less to our children, I became bitter to the children, I felt sorry for myself, I developed ulcers. And then I realized, I have God, I shouldn't act like someone with no relationship with God. Why should I be hopeless yet God is with me? I had focused so much on you that I forgot about God. When you found me, I had God. We dated and got married and I let everything be about you because I wanted to make our marriage work. Our marriage became the idol I worship instead of the blessing I have in God. Our marriage is falling apart because of you but my relationship with God is still intact"

She scrubbed the sufuria.

"You have chosen to abandon our marriage but that doesn't mean my whole world has collapsed. I will still continue being a good mother to our children. They will never say the problems between mom and dad made mom a monster. You do as you please with other women, I will raise our children"

She looked at him and told him, "Do I hate you? No, it will be a lie to say I hate you. You are the man I married, the one I vowed to, the one I love"

Tears fell down her cheeks. She wiped them.

"I can't just cancel all the years we've been together. The Bible asks us to love our enemies. If I am able to love my enemies, surely I can still love you despite all you have done. I am angry and disappointed, but I have taken my power back. I live for God who has exceedingly blessed me, not for you and the pain you cause"

She wiped her wet hands, took the apron from her body and told him, "In my peace, I am planning on where the children and I will move to. Since you have chosen to have an affair, you have shown clearly that you don't need us. So we will not make your life uncomfortable by forcing you to live with us. You need to be able to bring the woman you are cheating with to your own house. I am working on something. I came into this house in peace and I will leave in peace. You will not kill my smile and shine"

Why first eons should be vested in the hostels

By
 Ruth Fanice Arocho

Some students still live with their family, where their mothers take care of their everyday lives.  Others may live at off campus to enjoy new freedom. However, I believe that it is a good idea for all university students to live in hostels in campus in the first years. In a hostel, they can make new friends more easily, they can learn to become independent and they can spend more time on study.

Firstly, living in a hostel on campus would enable freshers to make new friends more easily. Soon after entering university, many freshers may feel anxious about their new university lives. To find new good friends would be one of the best ways to adapt to life in a new environment. Living in dormitory would give them many chances to meet new people and make new friends.

Secondly, living in a hostel on campus would enable freshers to learn to become independent. In a hostel, without their family's help, they have to wake up by themselves, do the laundry for themselves and take care of their own food and health. Living in a hostel gives students a good preliminary training to stand on their own feet in the future.

Finally, living in a hostel on campus would enable freshers to spend more time on studies. At university, students tend to have very heavy workloads and have to spend a lot of time on their studies. At times, many freshers may feel some difficulty to manage their time for studying. Living in a hostel on campus would be more convenient for study as they do not need to waste time commuting. There is a library on campus. If there are some questions, they can easily ask lecturers on campus or other friends in the hostel.

In conclusion, it is my opinion that for reasons of making friends, learning independence and spending more time on study, living in a hostel on campus would be better for all university students in the first year. I believed that it would help freshers to start new challenging university lives.

EVERY ONE YOU ESPOUSE HAS WEAKNESSES.

By:
KEVIN ABUJE

Many   have   expected   marriage   life to be a walk in the park. They  strongly  believe  that  their  partners  are  the   only  angel  in  their  small  heavens ;  perfect  in  all  aspects  of  life.  Why   do   they   believe   in   this?   This   always   arises   because   during   the   engagement   period,   what we may also call; dating   days, a partner may have really exposed the good side of his. Drawing a very beautiful and big picture in the    partner’s    mind   of   who you   can   be   once   in   a    marriage   life.  Spouses   will   always   handle   themselves with a lot of   humility and patience. But again, people should know that for any coin that lies on the ground, one of its faces is facing the sun while the other faces the ground.

Finally, these people marry and are committed to making a family.  With time, it is revealed that among angels exists a demon.  One may come to realize  that his  or  her  partner  doesn’t  know  how  to  manage  finance.  Someone’s who doesn’t want to see money with two eyes.  Similarly,  one  may  also  realize  that  may  be  the  wife  doesn’t  know  how  to  prepare  fish  well.  This is a weakness.  Some are even  surprised  to see  their  partners  not  regular attendants  of  church  or  mosque  as  they  may  have  expected.  There are many  things  that  boils  to  the  surface  once  people  have  gone  deep  into  marriage  life.

Therefore,  the  question  is;  should  we  quit  from  our  families  because  of  the  weaknesses  that  lie  within  our  marriage  partners?  Our answer is NO.  people should  be  aware  of  the  fact  that  no  one  is  perfect.  One can be  good  in  a  particular  area  and  at  the  same  time bad  or  poor  in another   area.  People  should learn to  appreciate  and  love  our  partners  in  their  strengths  and  weaknesses.  After you have  identified  a  particular  weakness  in  your partner,  wisely  find  for  the  most  appropriate  way  of  teaching,  advising and  correcting  it.  This will help a great deal.

 


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