IGNORING OTHERS

                                                           

Lots of people feel bad when someone ignores them because they gain their self esteem from the approval of others. When I was a young child I was taught to please grown ups in order to be “Nice” child. As I grew up my strategy for seeking approval remained the same and so I started to determine my worth based on the acceptance I get from others, If people liked me then I feel good about myself and if they ignored me I feel worthless.

 


The main reason I feel bad when someone ignores me is that he/she thinks that he/she was annoyed somewhere because something was wrong between me and him/her. however, this not being the case. It might be for a reason not being liked, or be a reason of forcing him/herself on me. Today am treated nicely and tomorrow being ignored. In deed when today dies, tomorrow don't cry.

It is that when one is not liked then probably he/she is hated at all and this is only when someone is harmed and in the same time not able to defend himself. What to note is that In case they are ignoring me on intention then I make sure that if I wasn’t important to them they wouldn’t have cared to take extra actions to make me feel bad and also know that being interested in someone else doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with me, it only means that these people are prisoners of their past which forces them to be with certain people.

 Do you read people’s e-mail , whatsapp messages or texts? If not, this the one way of ignoring someone. In my humble opinion this not good. Why ignore others. Tomorrow rises with new things, he that you ignore might be your boss. Even if it is work making you ignore others, it will go and other works will come. At the end of your life, will you regret not working for more time or not have a lot of time with your loved ones?

It’s critical that you make an effort to respond to and show interest in the people closest to you. If this means they get a spot on your to do list so that you can remind yourself to keep in touch, then so be it. Your friends should be there for you. Do not ignore them, get back to them.